Stay at home moms was your decision to stay home a good one?
12Weeks ToGo asked:
I just finished law school and am taking the bar exam in July but I also just found out I am pregnant with my first. My husband thinks i should stay home and just keep my degree for once my kids are all in school. It’s a big decision to make but I could definitly afford to stay home for the rest of my life but on the other hand i could also afford a nanny. So I was just wondering if stay at home moms ever wish they were working.
WILLIAMS
I just finished law school and am taking the bar exam in July but I also just found out I am pregnant with my first. My husband thinks i should stay home and just keep my degree for once my kids are all in school. It’s a big decision to make but I could definitly afford to stay home for the rest of my life but on the other hand i could also afford a nanny. So I was just wondering if stay at home moms ever wish they were working.
WILLIAMS
February 2nd, 2009 at 12:05 am
Absolutely however I have no regrets the worst day at home is ten times better then working for someone else and letting someone else raise my children. It really is a personal decision some women are not happy at home which reflects on the children’s happiness so in the end it may not be best for them but I would have it no other way. I can honestly tell the difference between children that have a parent staying home and those in daycare though a nanny might be different because she is giving them her undivided attention as a mom would not in a group setting all the time.
I did start my own business with Mary Kay so I am able to have something else that fit into my schedule and allows me to be someone other then Mom.
February 4th, 2009 at 8:34 am
I am currently a Stay at Home mom to three wonderful little girls. I have actually been on both ends of the spectrum. Although I have no degree, I did have a very well paying job that I decided to leave. I was able to stay home with my first child until she was 2 and then returned to work. With my second I actually went back to work once she was 6 weeks old. I successfully breastfed her until she was 9 mos old, but if I has to do it all over again, I would have chosen to stay home. By the time my third daughter was born, I decided being a mom was far more important than working. I have now been home for 2 yrs and absolutely love it. I get to be involved in everything my kids do. My oldest daughter competition dances, I am on the PTA and my second daughter just started dancing this year too. I am active in playgroups and get to just enjoy every moment with my kids. Best of all, there is not boss to answer to and no work schedule that I have to try to plan around. Once all of my kids are in school I will look for work part time to keep myself busy, but even then I do not intend on working full time, unless I absolutely have to. Your kids are only kids once and I intend on being as involved with each of them as much as I can for as long as I can.
So to answer your questions….yes deciding to be a stay at home mom was a GREAT decision…the best one I have ever made!
February 7th, 2009 at 1:41 pm
To best answer that question all you have to do is think of who would be raising your child if you were to work,because it definately wouldn’t be you!
February 9th, 2009 at 1:40 pm
I have stayed home with my children for ten wonderful years (since I was only 19)! It has truly been a blessing! My daughter, the youngest, is going into first grade this fall and I am finally thinking of going to work.
If you can stay home and raise your child, you need to do so. Why pay a Nanny to raise your child? They have a lot of influence on kids, and some bond better with the children than the parents do. I would NEVER risk that.
Just do whatever works for you and your husband. Congratulations! Best of luck in your decision.