Stay at home moms that have worked out of the home most of there life?
nicole h asked:
I am a new mom and love being a mom BUT how do you remain emotional happy staying home .I want to be a happy person and enjoy motherhood. How do you all balance the not working and socializing thing. I am thinking of ideas like moms group and craft and other things.. I dont want to be one of those moms that are fat and unhappy.
What do u do to stay sain?
MARGARET
I am a new mom and love being a mom BUT how do you remain emotional happy staying home .I want to be a happy person and enjoy motherhood. How do you all balance the not working and socializing thing. I am thinking of ideas like moms group and craft and other things.. I dont want to be one of those moms that are fat and unhappy.
What do u do to stay sain?
MARGARET
January 5th, 2009 at 9:36 pm
I have play dates with my children and other moms, I schedule “me” time. I also have two home based businesses. I’ve stayed home for three yaers and I love it. It can be hard at times, but I would never go back to work. Congrats.
January 6th, 2009 at 11:53 pm
Unfortunately, I still haven’t lost my baby weight all the way and my boyfriend and I are still struggling.
1) Get up every day and “fix yourself up” this doesnt’ mean cake on the makeup- it means take a shower, if that’s all you can do. If you feel like puting makeup on, GREAT… but take a shower and make time for yourself.
2) Take a “vacation” from being mommy. Take advantage if any family members would like to watch your baby (and you trust them to). Take a night out for yourself from time to time. You need to take care of yourself emotionally and physically to be a great mommy… I’ve struggled with this. I seem to think I have to do it all 24/7 and now that my son’s 1 I’m realizing that sharing him with family so I can get some R&R time is a GOOD thing!
3) Try to get out with friends from time to time- even if just for lunch, WITH BABY.
If you have other friends with kids, start play dates… they’re fun and it’s fun to have someone else who is going through or has been through the experience of raising kids. Take time to be an adult though, and have lunch or whatever on occasion without baby too. (sort of ties into #2 again)
Hope this helps some.
You can message me anytime if ya want!
January 10th, 2009 at 1:17 am
Some sort of Moms group is an absolute must. I have been going to a mother and baby group since my daughter was 10 weeks old and its the one thing I try not to miss each week. I find it useful for discussing issues relating to the children, but also just as a Way to get out of the house and talk to other adults! From that group I have made many friends and we get together for play dates during the week. Another good thing to do as your baby gets older. You can also try more organized activities such as Gymboree (http://www.gymboreeclasses.com), or something similar in your area. These are a good way to meet other people with children the same age as yours. Also if you have hobbies of your own, try to keep up with them, you need to do something for you as well as for the baby and your family. This may be hard to start with, but gets easier as the baby gets older.
Good luck, being a SAHM is hard work, but worth the effort!
January 13th, 2009 at 2:08 am
First of all, being a stay at home does not mean you get fat. Nor are all fat people unhappy people.
Secondly, use your organizational skills to make your home a better place. I never ran out of things to do when i was a SAH.
There was always something that needed work or improvement.
Third, get some scheduling down- work out a system for being more efficient but make sure it’s flexible to allow for mishaps and toddler tantrums. Allow extra time to get places.
Fourth, take some time for you. Keep your mind active by continuing to read for 15 min or so when you finally do get to bed each night. Give yourself lunch with a friend once a month to complain and vent so the hubby doesn’t have to hear every picky detail.
Fifth, spend some time with your husband at least once a week. Make an extra effort to tire the kids out so they’ll sleep more readily, make a special dinner or rent a movie and snuggle on the couch with some popcorn.
Good luck and God bless. If you are fortunate enough to be able to stay home and take care of your children then all the best to you. They need you intensely for the next decade or so and then they won’t want you around much as they build their own lives. Cherish every moment, every laugh but every tear too.
January 16th, 2009 at 6:49 am
I worked and had a great career before I decided to stay at home(which I don’t regret at all;) I joined a mom’s group and have also done mommy and me gym classes, swim classes and music classes with my son. It’s a lot of fun and I highly recommend getting involved with one or two things outside the home.